My name is Beth & I'm 19 years old! I'm a sophmore at Missouri State University & I'm an Athletic Training major, with possibly a Spanish minor? After I graduate in 4 years, I'm not sure what exactly I wanna do as far as grad school goes..but I've recently been considering going to PA school & becoming a physician's assitant, preferably working with an orthopedic specialist or a sports medicine doctor! But enough about me.. I was inspired to create this blog by two fellow Navy girlfriends, as I am a Navy girlfriend as well! I want something that I can reflect on things, and something that I can look back on to see how far I've come.. So let's start at the beginning..
I started out my senior year of high school dating a complete loser. In October, he cheated on me & it was over. Two days later, this guy I had met in the spring text me & we started talking. He was leaving in just a couple of weeks for Army basic but he was a good distraction from everything. When he left, I wasn't exactly sure where we stood but even though he wrote me letters and everything, I couldn't stop thinking about my ex and knew that this thing with Mr. Army guy was going no where. I told myself right then that I could never date anyone in the military.. Fast foward a few months to January, second semester of my senior year.. My best friend at the time had been begging me for a coupla months to come out to parties with her (she was a year older than me).. Finally after an especially hard week (finals & oh yea, I'd seen my ex for the first time since we'd broken up that week) I finally agreed to go out with her! On the way to the party, she told me about this guy she wanted me to meet. I didn't know what to think. When we got there, she introduced me to this scrawny, kinda goofy looking redhead, whose name (or nickname) was Red. He said hi but that was really about it..we didn't talk much. Later that night when we were laying in bed talking, I go 'Red is cute.' She was like ha, I know you'd like him! It was so weird though bc I had never thought a redheaded guy was cute before.. The next night, I went out with her again! This time, I dressed up a little more than the night before! We went to one house & I barely talked to Red. Then we went to another house.. We started out not really talking but then Kamay (my bestie at the time) started to play middle man.. While she was doing that, this creepy guy came up to me & kept trying to get me to dance.. I'm telling him I don't dance when Red comes up to me & takes my hand.. When I ask him where we're going, he replied 'were dancing' & all I said was 'ok!' After that, we were inseperable the rest of the night! We went to another house later that night & the whole time we were there, he sat & talked to me! One girl who'd been watching us for a while came up to me & was like 'Sorry if he's being an asshole' & when I told her he wasn't, her jaw just dropped! He has a reputation for being an asshole but he was so sweet & nice to me.. Instead of playing 20 questions that night, we played 20000000 questions! During that night, I found out he was in the process of joining the Navy. A few months before that night, I told myself I'd never date a military man, but it was too late..I'd already started to fall for this guy I'd only known for less than 24 hours.. The next morning, my best friend's car ran out of the gas so Red got up & drove us to the gas station..he totally saved our butts! Kamay told him now he was guarenteed a second date..& that's exactly what he got!
The next weekend, it snowed ALOT & him & his brother came over to my house & played in the snow! He met my mom after only knowing me for a week! Haha After that, I would spend almost every weekend night with him & Kamay & Kamay's boyfriend at the time, who is one of Matt's (Red's real name!) best friends! We dated, unofficially, for five months after we met! He went to Prom with me & went to my graduation & met all of my family at my graduation dinner! However, a coupla weeks after that, we ended things..& that's when I knew I loved him..
We ended things bc he finally had his orders to ship out to bootcamp the end of October & even though it was just the beginning of June, he said he didnt want to prolong anything that was going to happen anyways.. He said he still wanted to be friends & hang out.. It all killed me! When someone asks me when I knew I loved him, looking back at it, I tell them it was when he broke up with me the first time.. I know now thats why it hurt so bad.. I'd been cheated on & that didnt hurt as bad as it did when Matt & I ended things after unofficially dating for 5 months.. But I'll never forget what he said to me..he told me, "I really think you could be the girl for me, but we just met at the wrong time." It told him that if was meant to be then it would find a way.. Anyways, a few weeks later, we were pretty much back together, just in time for my birthday! Then a coupla weeks later, we ended things again, for the same reason.. Then a coupla weeks later, we were pretty much back together..then a coupla weeks later, we ended things again..& this time he said it was for good!
About a month passed & even though we had still stayed friends, I was seriously about to just give up on him & let him go.. I figured it would never be.. But thats when it all changed! Usually I was the one to initiate everything but right after school started, he went on vacation with his family & he text me every single day, which is something that hadn't happened all summer.. When he got home, things were different! We ended up getting back together, but once again werent official.. About a month after getting back together, he started talking about ending things bc he only had a month left.. I told him I didn't wanna talk about it right then..& we never talked about it again!
When he left for bootcamp, we were still officially together! But when I got my first letter from him, I was scared to death to read it! I thought for sure he was going to break up with me since that was the plan from the beginning.. instead, I got just the opposite! Every letter I got from him while he was in bootcamp was full of 'I miss you's & 'I love you's.. it was so sweet! I went to his bootcamp graduation & that afternoon while we were at the mall, he changed his facebook status to 'In a Relationship w/ Beth Cantu' I was soooooo happy..& that night in the hotel room was probably one of the best nights of my life..
Now, here we are, almost 10 months later! We've been through bootcamp, A-school, & now, Matt is stationed overseas in Japan! It's not easy but somehow, this whole experience has made our relationship so much.. I honestly don't know where we would be had Matt not left for bootcamp when he did..
Seeing as how I just wrote you a novel, & it's after 2am, I'm going to leave you with that for now.. I just thought I'd start my story off at the beginning..even though the beginning is just a little long.. It's kinda funny..I never know what to say to people when they ask how long Matt & I have been together.. We met in Jan. 2010 & officially started dating Dec. 22, 2010..that's almost an entire years difference!!! haha So you be the judge of how long we've been together.. :)
I love this! Very cute story (:
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